Your man isn't supposed to be your everything

Its taken me a while to figure this out but your man or woman, lover, bae- whatever, isn't supposed to fulfil all your needs. I was disappointed for quite some time wanting Benj to be my spiritual and emotional equal. We are very different and I love him with every bit of me but he doesn't want to philosophise over the meaning of life with me. Nor does he want to detox or meditate. For a while I couldn't understand why he wouldn't even "Try" I was upset and frustrated but over time it started to sink in.

He is blokey and low maintenance and that's what I fell in love with. He is the ying to my yang.

I realised I have friends that I can share my love of metaphysics and travel with. I have friends that will be honest if my outfit is crazy or more importantly if my behaviour to my husband is crazy.

My husband is there to be what he has always been, loving, caring and supportive. He does love fine dining but he also loves the pub (I don't) He wants to talk to his mates about silly boy things (note how I said his stuff is silly) I'm sure he see's my need to buy gold porcelain pineapples for the coffee table silly too.

We have to get realistic. We are different and that's why we work.

I'm turned on by that masculine, sexy, blokey man and he doesn't want to talk about fashion and feelings all the time.

I'm FINALLY ok with that. It's about understanding.

I don't want to play Xbox or talk sports either.

Coming to terms with him not being my everything is ok. Its healthy. Often we will watch TV in different rooms and meet up in one to watch a romantic comedy (his choice). I love having my man but I also love having my space and time with my friends too.

Benj is always there if I want to talk about how I feel, my work, my past or any issues I may have. He just doesn't revel in the detail like I enjoy to do with my friends. The sooner we come to terms with our lover not having to tick every box the happier we will be.